Unseen advantage

We all see the difference among each other as we go through life. Probably starting as early as grade school noticing differences in labels on folders and lunch boxes. Then later its jeans and headphones. As a soon to be teachers I have been wondering what the best way to approach these financial differences are. Being a multicultural teacher I am supposed to address the cultural differences. How do I approach the topics of racism and repression without causing discomfort to those races of students I am speaking for and guilt for those students whose grandparents and parents are the ones causing these treatments.
Not only races differences but financial as well. Am I supposed to expect more from the student who has a brand new laptop and private tutor or am I supposed to give the same judgement to the child who hasn't had breakfast and minimal supper for weeks? Today in one of my classes we took a step forward for advantages we got in the world. Two parent household, college graduating parents, private schools etc. At the end of the lesson I was one of the ones closest to where we had started.
I tried my hardest not to feel resentful to the students who haven't had to take out loans and second jobs. I tried not to feel pouty for living in the ghetto and using food stamps when no one was looking. I strive my hardest to make a life worth living for my daughter so she can have some of those advantages in life but its ridiculously hard to get ahead in these times.
This country's dream is hard work returns great profits. Well I call BS. Yes there are self made millionaires who worked 20+ years before they got somewhere but there are also ones who traded some of daddy's money around.
I find myself wondering who I would be if my situation growing up had been different. If my mom hadn't married and then widowed young and if she had gone to college. If I had not moved so much and established healthy friendships. Sadly I wonder if my daughter would be here and I wouldn't be chugging a 6 pack at some Ivy League school not having to pay attention in class.
I don't wish these disadvantages on anyone.